Thinkin' Bout My Ex
Janet Jackson · Damita Jo [2004]
I swear that I was straight with you
I wasn't looking for nobody new
I just needed someone to talk to
You said you were cool and understood
But now you caught feelings like I knew you would
And you sitting there with a broken heart
Cause I gave you my body and not my heart
When I'm holding you late at night
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
When I'm kissing you and look at you
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart
Baby I have to be
Unselfish and true to me
Cause I'm not where I really wanna be
And It's nothing with you
It's all me
I toss and turn all night when I sleep
Want and reaching for someone who use to be
Said it must be some kind of karma thing
Cause I can't seem to let go and love again
When I lay with you I close my eyes
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
When I'm touching you gently
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart
When I'm listening to music I'm thinking' 'bout my ex
In a bubble bath with the candles lit
I'm thinking 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart
You're beautiful
I don't wanna take the space from someone else
So let me go
And do a little soul searchin' for myself
I'm so sorry that
I pulled you in and let it get this far
You know I never meant to break your heart
At the shopping mall, the movies(Shopping mall, movies)
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
At the restaurant while I'm eating (Restaurant, eating)
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you (Sorry)
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart (I'm sorry x4)
While you talk to me I drift away (Talk to me, drift away)
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
When you ask me what I'm thinkin' (Ask me, thinkin')
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you (Sorry, I didn't mean)
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart (I'm sorry x4)
(Repeat 'til fade)
You know it's not who you think it is
Pull over
Let me do all the work
Thinkin' Bout My Ex
Thinkin' Bout My Ex stands as a standout track from Janet Jackson's 2004 album, Damita Jo. Released during a period where the pop icon explored mature themes and rhythmic experimentation, the song captures her signature blend of R&B and dance-pop sensibilities. The recording reflects Jackson's ability to navigate personal narratives within a polished production framework, maintaining the high-energy tempo that defined much of her mid-2000s output. As part of a discography that spans decades of innovation, this work demonstrates her continued relevance in the genre. The track contributes to the album's cohesive sound, showcasing her vocal delivery and the era's distinct musical textures without relying on overt lyrical quotation. It remains a notable song in her extensive catalogue of hits and deep cuts.