21 Things I Want In A Lover
Alanis Morissette · Under Rug Swept
do you not play dirty when engaged in competition?
do you have a big intellectual capacity
but know that it alone does not equate wisdom?
do you see everything as an illusion
but enjoy it even though you are not apart of it?
are you both masculine and feminine?
politically aware? and don't believe in capital punishment?
these are 21 things that i want in a lover
not necessarily needs but qualities that i prefer
do you derive joy from diving in
and seeing that loving someone can actually feel like freedom?
are you funny? a la self-deprecating?
like adventure? and have many formed opinions?
these are 21 things that i want in a lover
not necessarily needs but qualities that i prefer
i figure i can describe it since i have a choice in the matter
these are 21 things i choose to choose in a lover
i'm in no hurry i could wait for ever
i'm in no rush cuz i like being solo
there are no worries and certainly no pressures
in the meantime i'll live like there's no tomorrow
are you uninhibited in bed? more than 3 times a week?
up for being experimental? are you athletic?
are you thriving in a job that helps your brother?
are you not addicted?
...are you curious and communicative?
21 Things I Want In A Lover
Alanis Morissette's "21 Things I Want In A Lover" stands as a defining track from her 2002 album, Under Rug Swept. Following the massive success of her earlier alternative rock era, this recording showcases a shift toward a more polished, pop-inflected sound while retaining her signature introspective lyricism. The song explores the complexities of modern relationships through a detailed list of desires, reflecting Morissette's evolving artistic perspective during this period. As part of a discography known for emotional honesty and sharp social commentary, the track highlights her ability to blend personal vulnerability with broader observations on love and connection. It remains a significant song in her catalogue, demonstrating her continued relevance and willingness to experiment with her established musical identity.